It's no longer strange to see girls with kids and no husband in the picture. Some of us call it single parenting but most times thats not the case. A single parent is a person who has to raise a kid or kids up without the assistance of the other biological partner. A single parenting to shoulder the bills, parent alone and does everything alone.
A baby mama is a lady who gets pregnant and gives birth for a guy she is not married to or even dating. During this process there's a lot of understanding and legal works. The both parties come together and agree on the way they want the kids raised. The man is mostly the financial provider and spends some time with the kids, while the woman takes full responsibilities of the child's care.
There is always a financial settlement for the baby mama as well as reasonable amount for the child's care. A lot of ladies have jumped on the baby mama bandwagon just to avoid having to suffer financially. They take this opportunity to take in as much cash from the child's father and most go on to establish a business with it but most just use it to fund their extravagant lifestyles. The baby fathers are made up mostly of a group of guys who wants to have a kid but want to continue being a bachelor. They want kids but don't want to do it in a traditional settings. They want to avoid the commitments and prefer to just throw some cash at the baby mama to raise the child.
Because of the benefit of this lifestyle the baby mama trend is so rampant that it's no longer restricted to celebrities, others have joined in it. One of the highlights of social media is when there is a trade off of insults between the guys and their baby mama. Frankly it's one of my favorite headlines because you get to see matured adults insult theirselves without a care to who is reading it.
Anyway a lot of people have different reasons for settling in this lifestyle which really is not our concern. But before you agree or disagree to jump on this bandwagon here are some things you should be aware of.
1. A contract: I am an advocate for a well written contact of agreement when two people are getting into any arrangement that can be constituted as business or something that will pan into the future. With a well drawn contract in the simplest of English or any language problems are avoided. Both and all parties should state all their needs and responsibilities and state a very clear and strict penalty for any erring party. Included in the contract should be the roles both parties would be required to perform to avoid issues. This is so that when anyone falls through you can take your legally represented and signed contract to safeguard yourself and interest. DONT EVER SETTLE FOR AN ORAL CONTRACT.
2. Understanding: Please enter into this lifestyle with someone who is understanding and ready to be reasonable. Raising a child in a family takes a lot of love and understanding. Since this is not going to be the case you need a partner that would not be self centered or conceited. A bitter partner would make the life of any body difficult and could turn a kid against the other partner. So choose your partner wisely
3. Baby mama drama: Now this is the best part. A crazy baby mama is a lifetime of drama because whether you get married or not she is a part of your life for a lifetime. So if you get a crazy woman pregnant we are all watching for when you take your drama to twitter or instagram.
4. The other woman: For the ladies when you become a baby mama be ready to be the other woman who always gets picked on and looked down on by everybody. Yes everybody! We might all come out to support you when you get attacked online, we might envy the wealth you gained from being a baby mama but we definitely don't want to be the other woman like you. We want to be the legal wife and not the side chick or mistress who got pregnant. Everyone looks at you as the family intruder and a gold digger.
5. Spoils your chances: A lady with a kid is a major turn off for for majority of the men. They don't want you bringing another man's kid to their house and they definitely don't want to be part of any drama. So if you go ahead to be a baby mama that the baby father doesn't get married to then expect to remain single for a long time or possibly for life. Can you live like that?
6. Why are you in this lifestyle?: The requirement for this lifestyle nor easy oo. While you're home changing diapers he's out there clubbing with another woman. Your sleepless nights is yours alone. So if you are just about to jump in because the guy promises to load you with cash then you need to think hard. Will the cash he has promised (that you haven't seen yet) make up for all the hardwork, side talks, dirty looks and family disappointment you are bound to get? Then for those of you getting into baby mama mood just to get him to marry you. Are sure are you that scheme of yours would not blow up in your face?
7. Learn from examples: Haba before you jump look around Na. If you don't want to learn from those in your locations then come online Na. Davido and Sophia are sure to give you baby mama nightmares. Apart from them there are others. WISE UP OH!
BOSSETHEHI
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